aljensen
United States
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That seems like a pretty common situation for teenagers. Another way to think of it is not about sex, but about people's needs. He needed something that you weren't able to provide (sex). So he left to find what he needed. Likewise, you needed something he couldn't provide (seriousness) so you will find someone who can provide that. People gravitate towards what they need, even in other people. It seems callous, but it is true, I think. Part of the thing is we create idealized images of other people – especially the people we love. We hope to correct their faults, and in our minds we already have. We fall in love with this image of this person we have created, but it is not the actual person, so much as what we wish and hope them to be. This discrepancy between our ideals and reality causes a lot of pain. For now, the issue is sex. When you get older, it will become other issues. You want to move in, but he doesn't want you to. He wants to get married, but you aren't ready. You want to have children, but he thinks that it is impossible. Sometimes you compromise, and things work out. Sometimes you have enough of compromises, and move on. There is no final solution to life. Just my 2 cents.
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